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The day… in a nut shell

Julia Tomtania — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 18:46:53 +0000

So I decided I would write down some things on a daily basis what my Kids do, for my remembrance and for theirs.. HAHA

So Zyon decided he wanted to reach for something up in the fireplace hearth and could’nt reach it… so he said ” Mama, I can’t preach it!, I can’t preach it mama!”

Shyloh, discovered that being a girl is something that she wanted to be apart of, so she found some lipgloss, and insisted I put it on her. My little 15 month year old put out her lips, smiling and laughing… She was so excited saying “preh-ee” (pretty)… So I gave her the wand so that she could play with it some, and stuck it up her nose along with a laugh and a big sneeze that concluded with snot down to her nose.

With all the fights, and kicking, screaming and “that’s mine” being said all day, these little moments trump all the discouraging moments!

Love being a mom!

Julia,

Ps.. the list may go on, as the day goes on… So stay tuned:) haha

My Heart just rushed out of my chest…

Julia Tomtania — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:45:31 +0000

My Heart is breaking for those who are going through a battle of not just the mind but of the emotional and physical. Husbands and wives that are having to confront head on the issues of adulterous marital affairs. Whether you are the doer or have had it done to you, we are in a trial. The Devil does everything to Kill, Steal and Destroy.

John 10:10
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”

Starting with the covenant of marriage, he wants to break it apart like know other. The Devil is full of hate, malice, lies and deceit. Why would he want a marriage to succeed? In Front of a congregation of people you probably heard this passage once or twice;

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no MAN put asunder. (Matthew 19:6b).”

Through the covenant of marriage God put together the husband and wife. It also says that in the bible;

” Where two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am in the midst of them.” Matthew 18:20.

A marriage is bond of two people and God is in it. Thus, Satan will try to destroy that at any cost. This is why God needs to be the central part of EVERY marriage. We are human and we are sinners. We don’t always just make mistakes, sometimes we make huge mistakes that effect our loved ones and those around us. We need to be constantly praying for our spouse that their eyes would be shielded from the temptation of this world. I am blessed to say that Scott and I have an amazing marriage. However, there is not a day that goes by that I do not pray against the darts of the enemy in our lives, in our children’s lives. Prayer is essential in the make up of a family unit. If we do not use prayer, where do we get our protection? I’m sure you have heard, “ you have not, because you ask not.” If we don’t ask for protection against the enemy who will ask for us? It’s time to step up, woman I am especially talking to you, PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBANDS DAILY! You may hate him right now; you may be in blissful love. But this is part of your mission as a wife, Husband too! However, we all have a sinful nature, and can fall into temptation just like Adam and Eve. The difference now is that we have the Holy Spirit to help guide us through our shortcomings. Just recently I heard a about a woman logging onto her computer just to find inappropriate tapes of her husband with another woman. How heart breaking would that be? There is no quick fix, but there is prayer and God will allow you to rest on his arms, and you will have peace if you allow him to work in and through you and your mate’s life.

I’m not understating the fact of the hurt these types of relations have on marriages and the damaging effects, but know and have comfort that there is God in heaven. Who loves and hears us, and will protect us against the darts the enemy throws at us. Pray, pray pray…

Start here!

Dear Heavenly Father,
You know the issues in my spouses and my life. I ask that you would give us the wisdom to know what words to say and when to say them. I ask that you would come and be the peace and the comfort in any storm we may go though together. Allow me to trust in you, and put you first in all that I do. Allow me to have compassion for my spouse even when I don’t want to. Lord, also allow me to forgive {name} of what he/ she may have done in his past and even currently. I plead the blood of Jesus over us and our marriage, protect us form the darts the enemy has, and will throw at us. Bring us closer togetherin this time as we began to be closer with you. Be with us God.

Amen.

May God bless you and your marriage! Remember Prayer works!!!

Love,

Julia

Wives be aware

Julia Tomtania — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 08:23:07 +0000

So I’ve had some run-in’s with wives being straght up mean to thier husbands… Oh, I am so going there! Today, however, while I was reading the proverb of the day, I stumbled upon this passage:

Proverbs 27: 15 and 16.
15 A quarrelsome wife is like
a constant dripping on a rainy day;
16 restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand.

Crazy to think that we could make our husband’s annoyed of us.
Where are you? Why did you do that? You don’t do that! Why don’t you do that? Can you hear me? Do you still love me? On and on and on….

What are you doing???
Do you really want to be as big of pain in the backside as a greased up pig is to catch at a county fair?
I would think not.

In Psalms 19:14, it says:
14 May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight,
O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.

So ask yourself this before you begin nagging your husband, about how he left the toilet seat up again for the thousandth time…

Is what I’m about to say pleasing to God? To my husand? To my family, friends?
Word to the wise, never react outwardly towards your husband in anger, when you are in public. No matter the relation of that public audience… Keep it in, and solve it in the privacy of your bedroom;) plus making up makes it all worth it;) Also, over half the time you will forget why you were mad in the first place.

Be encouraging, greet him with a hug or a kiss when he comes home work… Don’t let your first words be how miserable your day was, you may not know what his day may have like… Leave your attitude out of the mix.
God gave him as your gift as a partner to go and grow through life together, make it a Joyful adventure not a miserable one.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, humbly I come before you, as your daughter. Thank you for giving me a husband who loves me. Allow me to encourage him with my words, rather than torch him with anger. Father, give me patience when I’m impatient and give me compassion when I’m not. Lord give me the wisdom to know what to say and when to say them. Bless my husband, allow your favor to rest upon him and our family. In Your precious name. Amen

God bless…. And remember watch your mouth and the words that come out of it…

-Julia

We are alive, Here we are.

Julia Tomtania — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:54:57 +0000

We whisper death in the ear of another

Our voice compromising our truth

we know not what we do

life and death are held in the words of our tongue

Hang on… hang on… hang on

realize what you say, know what you do

Don’t compromise with your attitude

I’m not alone, your here with me

you see my ways, you lead me

Alone with you , alone with you

here we are, here we are

walk in the world, talk in the world

we are alone, searching

walk in the truth, talk in the truth

we are alive, we are alive

here we are, we are alive

here we are, we are live

Here we are, we are live…

we don’t search, we don’t search

you are! you are! you are!

We are alive

It’s been a month

Julia Tomtania — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:37:35 +0000

Wow, I’m so sorry i didn’t keep up this month, Life got very busy. Not only did I take on more hours of Work in November, I hosted Thanksgiving at my house. Wow !

The Turkey turned out so well it was fall apart, I used fresh Rosemary sprigs, apple, chardonnay, and butter. I couldn’t have been more proud. It is Tuesday and I am proud to say that the 22lbs Turkey is gone. Yay! So more to come..

Just a small update for now:)

Julia

Sympathy, Empathy, We Don’t Really Know.

Julia Tomtania — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:56:39 +0000

When a person looses a loved, it seems as though their world crashes around them. However, as for everyone else the world just goes on as normal. No one can bring that person back into their life, no one knows exactly how that person impacted their life and what the mourning of that loved one looks like. How can one just say, “Get over it, It’s been a years!”. I don’t understand the human brain and how they think because everyone is different. Although, I do understand losing someone that is so special, they don’t know what to do with out that person. I personally haven’t experienced much death in my life, However, not until recently did mourn the death of somebody I never knew. Weird, Right? I don’t think so. My Husbands Dad passed away four years before I met him. Little did I know I was going to cry over someone I never met. For Eight years now,from time to time my husband (Scott), Wears a rubber-band around his wrist. I didn’t realize it at first when we were dating. It was not on all the time, but randomly. One day, I asked about it. He looked down at the rubber-band, and said ” Whenever I miss my dad, I put a rubber-band on my wrist”. Just so you know, I am biased, but seriously, my husband is one of the most amazing men alive. He takes care of me like I am a princess, he is the most amazing Husband and Father and above all, his heart for God is on fire. From What I hear, He looks just like his Dad, I have seen pictures, which is true. Lately more and more, I hear that his personality, character, wisdom, Humor, and Integrity is very similar to his dad. It sad to think that the one person that My husband has molded himself and aspired to be to be an example of, I will never get to meet him here on earth. My Children will never meet this incredible man, and my Husbands Dad is gone. Thankfully, as a Christ Follower I look forward to seeing and meeting all the people that have gone to heaven again. I’m excited that I will get to meet him. I know that it is pain here on earth, but I know that my husband finds comfort in the fact that his Earthly father is up in Heaven rejoicing with our Heavenly Father. I will never understand what my Husband goes through on a daily basis because of loosing his Dad so early in Life. However, I know that I can comfort him in prayer and Sympathy maybe even empathy, but I won’t ever feel what He feels. I LOVE YOU SCOTT WITH ALL MY HEART!

Praying for Fort Hood…

Julia Tomtania — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 06:36:43 +0000

Can You imagine waking up in the morning kissing your Husband goodbye, and never seeing him again? I don’t and Can’t imagine that!
So Tonight I am praying for the wives that have lost their husband, For the Mothers who have lost a son, Fo r
I’m sure, by now, you have heard about the Shooting at Fort Hood the Gunman being an Army psychiatrist, Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan ‘upset’ about his pending deployment to Iraq, killed twelve and injured many more. Hasan was wounded at the scene but was captured alive. Eleven were killed at the scene of the accident and a twelfth died at the hospital. ( www.msnbc.msn.com)

This is terribly sad and I just want to lift the people and those effected by this violent act at Fort Hood up in prayer!

” Lord, we don’t know why these things happen to innocent people but I ask in your name that you would bring peace and healing to those who have been hurt with the incident, whether it be, physically or emotionally. Lord, I know that you are the healer of the heart, so be with them tonight! Thank you God! ” – Julia

All that I Am

Julia Tomtania — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:49:46 +0000

I sing loud on my bedroom floor
hoping you can hear my words
words that ring out from my heart
to make you happy

I dance proud on my bedroom floor
Hoping you can see my dance
dance that shows out from my heart
to make you happy

I want to give you praise
I need to give you praise
All my praise or nothing
I give everything to you

I sing and dance for your greatness
I sing and dance for your love
I sing and dance for your power
You deserve it all

All that I am, nothing to prove
You’ve made me what I am
All glory to you!

Here to Stay

Julia Tomtania — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 21:48:13 +0000

I fly away, you chase after me.
I sink inside you pull me out.
I know you know me inside my heart.
I know you’ve given me every part.

I see through my tears, you love me
I see through the shadows, your joy
I know you love me in my darkness
though I’m troubled to see your love

I Know my life is not my own
I know this journey is not alone
I know you’ve sought me and called me by name
you are my king, your are my friend my always

I love you in every way
I love you in my heart to stay
you make my life in every way
I love you, your here to stay.

And a Great Morning it is.

Julia Tomtania — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 15:54:09 +0000

So this morning was great, I got to sleep in, got to spend time with husband… Life is great when you feel everything is in order.